I was still feeling a little uninterested in going out to eat after eating out almost every meal on vacation, but I had to ask, “Ok, but why?” With a smirk he replied, “Because it is our anniversary..” My eyes popped out and I squealed, “Really?” “Yep, tomorrow” he chuckled. Yikes, I was caught totally off guard, how embarrassing.
It is not that I don’t know when my anniversary is or that I don’t care. I even have Valentine’s Day a week before our anniversary to give me a heads up that it is coming. I just hadn’t looked at the date on the calendar. Each day was just a day of the week, not a number and so I didn’t realize it was almost the twenty-second, our anniversary.
This scenario is so stereo type for a husband to forget and the wife to be crushed that I actually think God allowed this so I can give you a new perspective.
Yes, I was unaware of the date, but I do not love my husband less. I adore my husband and thank God every day for him and our life together. (really I do) To be honest I am not the most romantic person on the planet, but I would never intentionally overlook an opportunity to bless my man. Although romantic creativity may not be my strength, I do desire to make my husband feel loved and respected every day of his life.
Administration is another weak area of mine, so my not knowing the date was not a complete shock to my husband. Granted my husband was not blessed by my forgetting our anniversary, but thankfully he did not hold it against me. He had a good laugh at my expense and then we went out for a nice evening.
Where we tend to fail as women in these scenarios is wallowing in the hurt feelings. We build up some unrealistic romantic scenario in our minds and then we get mad at our man for not living up to it. We must be realistic in who our man is; his strengths and weaknesses.
Why would we expect a fire blazing, soft music, and flower petals strewn all over the floor evening when he asked you to marry him at Joe’s Crab Shack? Love him for who he is, the way he is.
And like my husband had to do, if you have expectations, give clear “hints” so he can gladly fulfill your greatest desire.