Today, while at a baby shower, a one and a half year old was sitting on her mom’s lap next to me. Suddenly, the little tyke started lifting her shirt. The mom pushed down the girl’s hands and whispered in her ear, “No lifting your shirt.” The little girl had to try one more time. As the toddler started to lift the shirt again, without hesitation the mom flicked the sweetheart’s hand two times soundly. Another whisper to not lift the shirt was given. Although the child obviously considered her options, the battle was over. Note the mom did not feel she had to explain to her daughter about the importance of modesty before she required her daughter to keep her shirt down. The little darling may not have understood why she shouldn’t raise her shirt, but she very well knew she shouldn’t raise her shirt.
Even as children get older, we will have are moments of second guessing ourselves. Every parent feels that at times they are not sure if their child was disobedient or disrespectful because of difficulty in understanding or communication, or if they did it deliberately. Our wavering can cause us to over analyze and under parent. Remember, it is better to error on the side of action, because consistency is always easier for a child to understand than inconsistency.