Most of us followers of Christ look forward to the day Christ returns and we yearn to hear, “Well done, good and faithful servant!” as spoke about in Matthew 25: 21.
Note, Christ will NOT say, “Well done, great piano player” or “superb athlete” or “successful businessman” or even “Well done, super mom, you did it all!” When Christ returns He will judge our success on character, specifically mentioned here is being good (a little vague), faithfulness and service.
The ultimate compliment we live for from God is a compliment of our character.
We too can exercise this skill by purposefully complimenting character over talent.
When Junior picks up his room without having to be reminded, we can speak of his working hard, dependability, diligence and orderliness.
When Sweetie offers her seat to Grandma, we can speak of her being respectful, thoughtful, attentive, and giving.
If we are not use to complimenting character, it does take an extra moment of awareness to look beyond the surface to the heart of a matter. With some practice, complimenting character will become a natural habit.
Now, don’t feel like you have done something wrong if you say little Suzie looks adorable in that dress. Every compliment does not have to be a character compliment. If we get to strict about how to compliment, we will stay away from it all together. Children need compliments, so pour them on.
Yet, as we encourage our children through compliments, let us as parents purpose to build up the traits that really matter. What really matters is the character God requires of all of us. Search His Word and find out what He wants us to be like. When a child shows his heart by acting with character, let him know you noticed and thrill him with your joyful compliment.