Think of something in your life that required planning and practice. Some examples might be: a speech, sports, a project, finishing a subject early…..
Think of what you did to accomplish this goal:
--checked with others along the way
Was it all fun? No.
Could you have done it all alone?
If yes, would it have turned out as well?
How did others help?
Marriage is a goal; we cannot expect to get there with a good result without a plan. If our plan is courtship then that will guide our decisions now.
So if our plan is to only “date” to get to know someone with the intent to marry, then we need a plan that keeps us from being distracted from that goal. We need to gather around us a team that will help us fulfill that plan. As we look for people to walk along side us, don’t miss those who love you most and know you best, your parents.
Crafting a plan now will help you make wise decisions when your emotions try to confuse you. Make your plan as detailed as possible. Think about what conversations are appropriate with a guy; what actions should be avoided; what attire you will wear and what you will not; and make a way out of one on one situations. Plan a code for friends or parents for help; a word, a text or a look that they know means you want them to intervene.
Get alone, take time to think and pray, then make a plan you can live out regarding courtship.