I experience this same frozen feeling at times with parenting. In the moment I can feel lost for what to do. I stand there staring at what is going on and know I should be doing something, but I am at a loss. Just as in my coaching, at times I lean on Todd to guide me in what to do, other times I just listen to the children for awhile and then I can figure out what needs doing but, still other times, I miss the immediate opportunity and I just pray and ponder until I get more understanding.
No missed opportunity is totally lost. Recognize that something needs to be done or to be different and seek wisdom until you get it. Once wisdom is gained, readdress any situation that can be bettered by that information even if it happened a week or month prior. Obviously, immediate action is best, but even delayed action is better than no action.
And if you are like me, sometimes it takes awhile before I gain the wisdom needed to guide my children. Like them, I am still learning and that takes time.