Titus 2: 3-5 "Likewise teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanders or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind and to be subject to their husbands so that no one will malign the word of God."
The first point is Be Reverent in the Way They Live:
Proverbs 31: 12 says, "she brings him good and not harm all the days of his life."
Note singles, this includes you, all the days of his life does not start when you get married or even when you meet him. All the days of his life is now! Are you bringing your future spouse good with what you are doing today? You bring him good or harm by what you post online, what you wear, how you talk and with what you do. Starting now, bring him good and not harm all the days of his life.
Those of us that are married, we had a choice, we made it, now let's make it wonderful. We too must start now, bringing him good and not harm all the days of his life.
Ladies, remember, we picked our spouse. I picked Todd and he picked me! There were reasons we picked each other, we cannot forget them. I at times look back to our dating days and remember....remember what attracted us to each other, I mean besides hormones.
HIS SMILE. Yes, his smile can still melt my heart. I love to see Todd smile, so I want to do my best to make pour life worth smiling about.
HIS ADVENTUROUS SPIRIT. When we were dating Todd would pick me up and we would go for a drive. We would often end up at a state park or some tourist site; I never knew until we got there, it was exciting. He would even stop and read those historical markers along the way--I didn't know people did that. Now, today, I need to resist my home body spirit and say yes when he invites me to go for a ride, after all, who knows where we might end up.
HIS ABILITY TO STAND ALONE, and to make a decision and stand by it. He is not a people pleaser in the least. Waver is not in his vocabulary. So when I want him to "please people" and act differently, I remind myself of who he is and how much I respect this man I picked.
And he picked me. When we tell the stories about our dating years, I do wonder why he stuck with me. Yes, he picked me even though, upon his first attempt to get me to date I told him, "My Mom and I have decided I am not going to date at this time."
Another time before we were dating, he came to visit me at college to find me holding hands with another boy. wouldn't that discourage most people from more pursuit? Not my Todd. And what happened to that no dating thing?
On one of our first dates Todd took me to Lake Superior. As we sat side by side on a log skipping rocks, I managed to clock him with my rock right on the forehead. don't waste time trying to figure out how I did this, I am convinced it is an unrepeatable act.
Oh, and that's not all, another time, we went for ice cream and as I bit into my cone I realized it was stale. Without thinking it through I tipped my cone upside down trying to get the ice cream to scoot up so I could finish it without eating the cone. Instead, I had my ice cream lying on the ground at my toes.
He picked me, I love remembering that, and I picked him! Remembering helps me be reverent in the way I live.