As parents this can at times cause us to be divided. Often it looks like Dad is the mean one and Mom is the defender of the children. In general, mom tends to think dad is too tough with the children. His punishments are too much. So as Dad doles out the consequence, Mom stands behind him rolling her eyes and mouthing “it will be fine”.
Three things to point out here, first, it is vitality important
that mom and dad have a united stand in front of the children. So if the mister isn’t doing things the way you think he should, don’t show it to the children. Take your disagreement and discussion behind closed doors. If he agrees with your insight, he can always go back to the children and correct the matter.
Secondly, God made us different; this is not right and wrong,
just different. Although most wives I know would at times think their husband speaks too harshly to the children, it is amazing how the children seem to be able to take it from Dad. Children respect their dads. Dads are even bragged about to their friends.
Lastly, often moms are overly soft. We pride ourselves in having
compassion, but our feelings keep us from doing what is best for our child. So what appears to be an overly harsh husband is just the other end of the spectrum. Because one is soft and one is firm, the other person always seems wrong. Our being extremes, can also cause the other person to cling to their extreme to counter the other parent. Yikes, what a cycle.
God uses our differences. Look for how God uses the confidence
your husband has to discern situations and act on them throughout life. Be thankful he is involved and wants to help guide your children. Trust him to want what is best for your children. We
too must want what is best for our children and a unified marriage is definitely best for them.