On purpose though, we have not been as “creative” in discipline. This is not right or wrong, but I would like to share our reasons for having predictability in consequences. Three reasons for being unsurprising include: not having to create an appropriate punishment for each crime. It can be difficult to be consistent or timely if a suitable consequence can’t be dreamed up. Secondly, we do not have to remember or keep track of our creativity. “Hey Honey, who’s grounded and who’s doing dishes for two weeks?” Lastly, we want to have short accounts and quick forgiveness. A quote often heard in our home after a consequence has been delivered is, “As Doeblers, we forgive and forget, so now let’s move on.” This is a good reminder for child and parent. Keeping short accounts also removes the opportunity for a child to brood over how wrong or unfair parents are to assign such long lasting punishment. So, even if our discipline is same old, same old, our “creativity” in training works to drive principles home and helps them stick in our children’s hearts so they can be a light to their paths.
Creative is not how I have thought of our training. Yet, this is the word used recently to describe ESP Character Training by a reader; I suppose that is true. I like the idea of doing whatever it takes to get truth into our children’s hearts. Doing multiple things to instill one truth can help bind them upon a child’s heart forever. Prov. 6:20-22 says a father’s commands and a mother’s teaching guides, speaks to and watches over their children. And it states our teaching is to be a light. This is a big responsibility, let’s embrace it.
On purpose though, we have not been as “creative” in discipline. This is not right or wrong, but I would like to share our reasons for having predictability in consequences. Three reasons for being unsurprising include: not having to create an appropriate punishment for each crime. It can be difficult to be consistent or timely if a suitable consequence can’t be dreamed up. Secondly, we do not have to remember or keep track of our creativity. “Hey Honey, who’s grounded and who’s doing dishes for two weeks?” Lastly, we want to have short accounts and quick forgiveness. A quote often heard in our home after a consequence has been delivered is, “As Doeblers, we forgive and forget, so now let’s move on.” This is a good reminder for child and parent. Keeping short accounts also removes the opportunity for a child to brood over how wrong or unfair parents are to assign such long lasting punishment. So, even if our discipline is same old, same old, our “creativity” in training works to drive principles home and helps them stick in our children’s hearts so they can be a light to their paths.
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