I hope my weakness inspires you.
The other day I had to called my sister. I needed a talking to her. Augh. I am so thankful for people that speak Truth into my life.
Drama, drama, drama. Any of you that are receiving this email have heard about my husband and me and his needing a hot breakfast and all. Well, this "issue" has been going on for 26 years. I truly am the most stubborn person he has ever met. Not exactly a badge of honor. I sure am glad he loves me no matter what.
It all starts out at 5 in the morning. I kid you not. I am up, out of bed, fixing that man bacon, eggs, toast, juice, the full meal deal. I think I am God's gift to the human race. I truly believe I deserve wings -- super sized!! Shoot, I think I warrant a halo too. He complained. Things weren't quite right, I won't give you the specifics because you will just want to hurt the man like any woman would BUT really his criticism was not the problem. I WAS!!! Augh. I so hate that part. But I think I am closer to changing than ever before. How can it be such of a big deal? Really?!??!
He commented that it is pretty hard to cook from the couch. I would get things going and then go to the couch. Well, my sister, could hear what my husband was saying and not just what I was hearing. My hubby just wants me to give him 30 minutes of time. That's how long it takes to cook his breakfast. He wants me to be there wholehearted, undivided, selfless. That would minister to him. He would feel all manly if I would speak to him in his language.
So, even though I couldn't "hear" my from my hubby, I could hear from my sister. The last two times I've made his breakfast I've stayed right there, tried to focus. Now as I'm standing there
in the kitchen I get distracted and want to start wiping things down, etc., not the plan either, oh I do think I have ADD, anyway, I think I'm new and improved in my breakfast dealings. I normally hate to hear how someone has started a whole new program on they are on day one. Give me the review after it works for you for a year, but here I am. But this has been a process since day one, overcoming hurdle after hurdle, selfishness after selfishness, line upon line. That is why I feel this story is worth sharing.
Okay, so how this applies to you. If you get the impression you should be making breakfast for your hubby you missed the whole point. Every husband wants different things. Your husband might not want breakfast at all ever. Hear me please. But if there is something that you are being stubborn in, I encourage you to change faster than me and my 26 year process. I'm sure this will be a forever growth area, but I keep pressing in wanting to be all God wants me to be and all my hubby wants of me.
Your sister, Pam