Josh and Danielle
Congratulations on your marriage!! Enjoy each other and keep Jesus first!! He will never fail and wants to be a part of every area of your lives.
Todd would say a good wife always laughs at her husband’s jokes. That may seem silly, but the reality is a wife should be the one person her husband can always count on being on his side. Even if no one else laughs, Danielle, look at Josh with a twinkle in your eye and laugh. Do not joke at each other’s expense. Speak words that build each other up in public. Remember Josh is “your” man and Danielle is “your” wife—brag about each other.
Another word of wisdom is to ALWAYS believe the best. Do not assume bad motives. Remember you love each other and would not purposefully hurt each other. When in doubt, ask. “What did you mean by that?” There is nothing uglier than an easily offended wife that glares at her husband because she assumes he was being unkind. After twenty-five years of marriage, I have found that the times I didn’t follow this advice and got upset with Todd, he often had no idea what upset me because his motives were not malicious at all.
One last thought for you, don’t forget to play together. This will be easy at first, but as the years add up it can get easy to neglect making effort to engage in recreation together. Life gets busy, so when you start to feel like two ships passing in the night, let that be a reminder to set aside some fun time. Think back to what you liked to do while you were dating and purpose to revisit those activities.
Best wishes for many years of happiness, Todd and Kim Doebler