1) Recognize. Be highly sensitive to the word should. Recognize the shoulds others are putting on you. Be aware of the shoulds you are putting on yourself. Eliminate those that are: vague, don’t line up to God’s Word: want to become an idol, aren't what your husband wants, distract from training of children and are burdensome.
2) Change. Let’s change our vocabulary with others. When we tell others they “should” do something, we are actually saying that if they don’t do it they are a dummy. Instead of “you should”
let’s try, “what do you think about?”, “this is how I see it”, “what the Bible says is”…keep conversation open by discussing ideas, not giving shoulds.
3) Celebrate. Each time you recognize a SSS necklace and remove it, celebrate! Rejoice and thank the Lord for His freedom. Gal. 5: 1a “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.”
4) Obey. Lastly, when a should is specific, lines up with God’s Word, and is light not burdensome, obey. I John 5: 3 “This is love for God: to obey His commands. And His commands are not burdensome.”