But, of course, every perfect day has its hic ups.
It was on the ride home…after eight hours of being together and being rather tired, the three girls in my car clashed. It wasn’t major, as a matter of fact I didn’t even address it at the time.
This morning though one of the moms called; her daughter’s feelings were hurt. My daughter and the other girl had been whispering and giggling and leaving the other girl out. What a bummer.
I felt bad that I hadn’t been more involved at the time; I had listened and although I thought a few things were not the best, it wasn’t obvious to me that it was two against one.
After some more discussion with the hurt girl's mother, I called my husband to get his take. He wanted our daughter to include everyone and not fall into cliques or feeling special when someone talked to her but not another.
Next, I sat our daughter down for a discussion. The discussion went well with my daughter, she felt bad for hurting her friend. Eagerly, she called her friend to apologize and assure her that she did not want to be unkind to her. In the end they chatted about events of the day and hung up friends.
All that to say, girls must be helped through their friendships, because even “good girls” can fall into being clique’, whispering, saying “It is an inside joke’, or ignoring their friends. Although this hic up was a bummer, it did cause me to address and discuss with my daughter more specifically how to act when there are more than just two friends together.