There are times in parenting that there is a lack of certainty about actions or attitudes. There is an uneasiness about how a child is acting, yet not one hundred percent sure of motives. In those times perhaps a little time is needed to let the “weeds” expose themselves better. The key is to not forget about checking on the “weeds” or they will choke out the good character for lack of being tended. Instead, as soon as the “weed” is correctly identified “pull it.”
Once the “weed” is pulled, water the “plant.” As we remove incorrect behavior and thinking we must replace it with good options. Fertilize and water by praising good choices and talking through how to handle upcoming circumstances. Daily asking questions and talking are like weeding the garden of your child’s heart. If there are daily little touches the “weeds” can be kept under control without feeling overwhelmed. Yet, a well producing garden does take effort, planning, and purposeful weeding and feeding. The garden of your child’s heart is worth even more than those yummy fresh tomatoes, so roll up your sleeves and tend to them.