too controlling this way:
Unpredictable—she tells her children to put on their shoes, then
she starts chatting with her lady friends, suddenly she barks “I told you not to jump on chairs”, back to chatting, another order out of the blue “come here and stand by me, you are being too wild”, more chatting, lull in conversation leads to this mom declaring “time to go, now, to the car”.
None of what she is expecting is out of line; it is her random
intolerance that is too controlling. Barking, yelling, and ordering in a stern tone are her way of controlling her children. When a parent is working with a child at home on a matter, then a calm reminder is all that is needed in public.
I have a relative that was brought up with a controlling mother.
She remembers her youth as being one huge disappointment after another. Whenever she was really looking forward to something her mother would take it away as a punishment for some misbehavior. Nothing was learned regarding the misbehavior,
only to keep her excitement a secret from her mother.
A quick synopsis would be: a too controlling parent uses only
authority; relationship is unimportant.