A few years back we were considering having some family devotions. I wanted to dictate the time, tell Todd what would work best. Thankfully, the Holy Spirit reminded me of our beginnings and how I had messed up our sharing before. Instead of making the time look like my image of family devotions I allowed him to do the leading, however he wanted. Now we often sit around the table after supper and Todd reads to us his journal from one year ago. First he shares his diary type entry, which explains what we did on that day a year ago. Secondly, he reads to us what verse he wrote down for that day and what his thoughts were regarding its application. What a wonderful way for him to inspire us and relate what God has taught him. All of this could have been lost if I would have insisted on doing things my way.
Another time it was good this tongue of mine took a rest, was when Todd started doing quiet times with our son. Oh how I wanted to help them get the most out of their time. Why do I think I know so much? Thankfully, I waited, watched and listened. Our son loved his time with his dad and often relayed to me the verse they had discussed and were working on that day. Amazing--their time doesn't look anything like I would do, yet, it is perfect for bonding them to each other and to the Lord!
So, if we want our children to grow in character and with the Lord, then we probably desire for their father to be a part too. My encouragement would be, learn from my mistake and don't hinder any efforts your husband makes to lead the family. Stand back, give him room and enjoy the unique perspective he brings to inspiring the family.